Inspiration comes from the darnedest places! In relationships it's wise to focus on the reward... which is companionship, friendship. commitment and LOVE! However, before we can expect that we must ask ourselves "what is it that we say we want, and how hard are we willing to WORK to get it?" We ALL want the best case scenario in our relationships... and if you've been working HARD to get that, GREAT... as long your partner is working hard too! If not, you could be wasting good water on a garden that just won't grow! It may be time to LET GO.
It's a lot less dramatic than it sounds here's why, I like to use the over simplification process in my decision making. For example, when I'm hot, I take off items of clothes when I can, grab a cold drink or turn on the air. When I'm cold, I bundle up, drink something warm or turn the heat up! When I have a headache, I take an aspirin and lay down. etc.
If something is bad for you, or at the very least uncomfortable you address it. When/if you look at relationships the same way. You'll act in the same manner. Either something is good or it's not good...to you....for you....etc. or NOT!
How long would you hold your hand over fire before you realize your being burned???? NOt longer than an instant I bet.
When I plant "pink flowers" I expect them to GROW, else what's the point? Save yourself today...
Don't waste good water on a garden that won't grow.... know when to let GO!
I wish you PINK things!!!
Ramona!
Wednesday, July 22, 2009
Friday, July 17, 2009
Pink Responsibility....
Normally I blog about living the PINK life to women... and how to expect the best in their lives and relationships by tapping into the girl within.... but today....we take the PINK mentally to the streets.
I'm stunned at the back lash I received from my comments on the racial pool incident in PA last week. I agree that a group of inner city kids who rented a suburban pool should not have been subject to racial slurs before the day camp they belonged to was refunded their rental fees and asked not to return. This in no way was rational or acceptable... but let's face it! Racism does indeed exist, always has, always will, and there's nothing we can ever do about it! Now, while that's sad. It's no excuse to just roll up and die. OR be constantly angry...to no avail.
Racism should make us angry to ACTION! and if possible not even angry at all! For what purpose?
My statement was either twisted, misunderstood or whatever.... but here is what I meant when I said...
"I'd be mad too if a bunch of inner city kids, came to swim in my community's private pool"
I pay taxes in my neighborhood to maintain the residents only community center and pool... it is immaculate and well kept, by... the community. If a group of kids...needs to pass every pool and park in their own neighborhood, because they are either unsafe, unkempt, in disrepair??? why should "I" be subject, more specifically my community's pools/parks... to children (however innocent) who's parents and surrounding community doesn't CARE about their own???
To further explain.... if they parents of these precious children don't care enough about their kids to take an active roll in their local areas to either ...vote for adequate representation for city parks and recreation centers... stay involved to ensure that they keep up their responsibility to the community....when/if they fail??? HOLD THEM RESPONSIBLE BY DEMANDING THEIR RESIGNATION AND OR PROSECUTION....AND NOT VOTING FOR THEM AGAIN.
Lastly, rolling up your own sleeves and getting out in the neighborhood parks and recs with a group of neighbors, family and friends....hiring a pool maintainance company if necessary and/or maintain the lawn, plant flowers monitor activity, involve your kids in the process so they have an understanding of how a community should work etc....Yourselves! Instead of taking liberties in another community who was willing to DO what you are not willing to do to ensure that their children enjoy a safe, well maintained parks to swim/play in.
Look at it this way.... if you had a neighbor who was a pyromaniac and burned his own house down! Should that same neighbor be allowed to come into your home and play with Matches???
Or if your friend has a 200 credit score and can't qualify for any car...less alone a new car, but admires your new BMW so much, he asked you to co-sign for him so he can ride sweet!
Do you think he will care for your name and credit score ABOVE how he has taken care of his own???
What's fair??? ... asking someone to pull their own weight and take personal responsibility in society should be expected and completely acceptable.
Let's lose the victim mentality.... if we EVER want to live a life of VICTORY
Ramona
Check out President Obama's note to Black America! http://news.yahoo.com/s/nm/20090717/us_nm/us_obama;_ylt=ApgZsspSwpOx4smc9Rh2DZQDW7oF
I'm stunned at the back lash I received from my comments on the racial pool incident in PA last week. I agree that a group of inner city kids who rented a suburban pool should not have been subject to racial slurs before the day camp they belonged to was refunded their rental fees and asked not to return. This in no way was rational or acceptable... but let's face it! Racism does indeed exist, always has, always will, and there's nothing we can ever do about it! Now, while that's sad. It's no excuse to just roll up and die. OR be constantly angry...to no avail.
Racism should make us angry to ACTION! and if possible not even angry at all! For what purpose?
My statement was either twisted, misunderstood or whatever.... but here is what I meant when I said...
"I'd be mad too if a bunch of inner city kids, came to swim in my community's private pool"
I pay taxes in my neighborhood to maintain the residents only community center and pool... it is immaculate and well kept, by... the community. If a group of kids...needs to pass every pool and park in their own neighborhood, because they are either unsafe, unkempt, in disrepair??? why should "I" be subject, more specifically my community's pools/parks... to children (however innocent) who's parents and surrounding community doesn't CARE about their own???
To further explain.... if they parents of these precious children don't care enough about their kids to take an active roll in their local areas to either ...vote for adequate representation for city parks and recreation centers... stay involved to ensure that they keep up their responsibility to the community....when/if they fail??? HOLD THEM RESPONSIBLE BY DEMANDING THEIR RESIGNATION AND OR PROSECUTION....AND NOT VOTING FOR THEM AGAIN.
Lastly, rolling up your own sleeves and getting out in the neighborhood parks and recs with a group of neighbors, family and friends....hiring a pool maintainance company if necessary and/or maintain the lawn, plant flowers monitor activity, involve your kids in the process so they have an understanding of how a community should work etc....Yourselves! Instead of taking liberties in another community who was willing to DO what you are not willing to do to ensure that their children enjoy a safe, well maintained parks to swim/play in.
Look at it this way.... if you had a neighbor who was a pyromaniac and burned his own house down! Should that same neighbor be allowed to come into your home and play with Matches???
Or if your friend has a 200 credit score and can't qualify for any car...less alone a new car, but admires your new BMW so much, he asked you to co-sign for him so he can ride sweet!
Do you think he will care for your name and credit score ABOVE how he has taken care of his own???
What's fair??? ... asking someone to pull their own weight and take personal responsibility in society should be expected and completely acceptable.
Let's lose the victim mentality.... if we EVER want to live a life of VICTORY
Ramona
Check out President Obama's note to Black America! http://news.yahoo.com/s/nm/20090717/us_nm/us_obama;_ylt=ApgZsspSwpOx4smc9Rh2DZQDW7oF
Monday, April 6, 2009
Ladies, if you are tired like I am of seeing many relationships that start strong... then fizzle and fade away....but don't know exatly why. Well, this blog is for you. Patterned after my upcoming book, "IN the Pink, a woman's guide to being a girl... let's discuss the ups, the downs, the highs, the low of datiing, or should say dating that doesn't end in MARRIAGE.
Now, if marriage is NOT what you want. You may not benefit from this particular blog... but I dare say you may be able to incorporate these little principles into your daily life and/or existing relationships and watch the transformation.
Chime in ladies, be honest and remember we, none of us NEVER rise above our confession!
So what is it that you say "YOU WANT"? and how hard are you willing to work to get it?
Let the pink blogging begin!
Now, if marriage is NOT what you want. You may not benefit from this particular blog... but I dare say you may be able to incorporate these little principles into your daily life and/or existing relationships and watch the transformation.
Chime in ladies, be honest and remember we, none of us NEVER rise above our confession!
So what is it that you say "YOU WANT"? and how hard are you willing to work to get it?
Let the pink blogging begin!
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